In fact, just today it was reposted on the Huffington Post! In fact, I probably respond to more second emails than first emails.
People normally like talking about themselves, so opening with a question about him or her to get the ball rolling is a good way to improve your response rate. Questions are the gas that keeps a convo going, so think of something more interesting or specific to ask than a boring “what’s up?
Although less popular than “haha” and “lol,” another success was “hehe,” which received a 33% chance of response.
Your first message should be sweetly simple and stay short.
So, instead of messaging someone that they are “gorgeous,” mention the words “awesome,” “fascinating,” or “cool,” if you want to give a compliment. If you’re hopelessly messaging and not really looking for a response (which likely isn’t you if you’re reading this post), then go ahead and continue holding vague and general conversations. Specific interests and precise reference words for those—such as “zombie,” “band,” “tattoo,” “literature,” to name a few popular ones—show to be successful. Research shows that most “niche” words have a positive effect on messaging.
Try talking about particular things that interest you or details that you might have in common with your message receiver.
No traditional greeting at least earns the reply rate of 27%.